The objective cause of the upset — the reason you give for it — is either specific to the person or general to the role. The impression that either a) the other person is not living up to their role, or b) that the role itself is objectionable in some way.
What is the resolution to the upset? Complaining and remaining upset doesn’t help. It is cowardly and damaging to your self to complain and remain frustrated.
There are several short term solutions:
- delete the person from the role,
- delete the role from the organisation,
- delete the organisation.
1) addresses a), while 2) and 3) address b). Deletion takes many forms: but is necessarily a form of activism (revolutionary or reactionary, capitalist or Marxist, it doesn’t matter). This makes these solutions short term: they last one cycle.
Short term solutions are necessary: we recommend their application. But they are effective only when combined with a longer term resolution — an attitudinal shift.
The shift is to delete your relationship to the objectionable person/role under question. Do this before running through 1)-3). Deleting relationships doesn’t mean cessation of empathy — in fact it is the key to empathy. Instead, it’s all about removing identification from the equation.
When deletion is done effectively and systematically, you’ll find there is not a lot left of “you”, constructed, as it is, mainly out of such relationships. Stop finding yourself in the gaze of this other person. Before acting in any other way, stop identifying yourself in relation to this other role or that other role.
Because it is identification itself that is the subjective cause for the upset. Identity itself, existence as an identity, is made from this crisis of self-definedness by relational proxy, this continual upset. You are not merely upset — “you” are upset.
Does deletion of relationships mean withdrawing from all organisation? No: it is the key to gaining control of the organisation itself. You do not exist as a cell in relation to another cell, instead you flow as blood, giving life, being life. The focus is not on one neurone in relation to another, but on the electricity that is conducted through, from which emerges mind, intellect, thought organised.